We create our own hardships by forcing things to happen in the manner we visualize they should happen, instead of going with the flow. When I started my first business, I had no clue what I was doing because I’d never owned a business before. All I knew was that I needed it to create cash flow and become profitable so I could continue to remain self-employed.
I had a mental plan on how I was going to achieve profitability, but on the other hand, I was open to following the opportunities that presented themselves to me that looked like they would generate a steady revenue stream. Because of this open mindedness, I was going with what flowed to me, instead of setting limiting parameters and insisting we had to operate in a rigid box. With my first business, literally all I had to do was state what I needed to have happen financially, and within a very short time, the money appeared, usually from something that I didn’t even know was going to be an opportunity at the time. I was experiencing miracles on a daily basis. Being self employed was a Spiritual experience in itself!! I had what I needed flowing to me in such a way, that I finally realized, I will always have what I need!
There's a Rolling Stones song called, 'You Can't Always Get What you Want'. The chorus singers starting off this song sound Angelic to me. I get goose bumps every time I hear it because the underlying theme to this song is a truth about how the Universe works for us and provides for us. This message is valid not only in our work lives, but in our relationships too.
We all want love. Everyone of us wants to be loved by that special someone who we can connect with, lean on and depend on. But in relationships, we start making grave errors when we create this fantasy in our heads about this person being perfect for us. We look at who we want them to be, and mentally we tell ourselves they are that perfect person for us before we’ve really gotten to know them. We ignore or make excuses for their bad behavior because we so badly want them to be who we see them as instead of who they are showing us they are. This is clearly not going with the flow in the relationship.
If we keep experiencing set backs in our relationships, it’s time to stop blaming the partners we choose, and start looking at what we are doing that is not going with the flow. Going with the flow means recognizing what is coming at us and floating down stream with it…… but sometimes we hit dangerous rapids, and for our own safety, we need to paddle to the bank and pull our canoe out of the water, and walk past the rapids until the flow is not so turbulent.
For most of us, at some point in our lives, we will need counseling to correct the unhealthy behaviors created in our childhood through trauma or just the fact that our parents didn’t have a “full cup” themselves, and if they don’t have it, they can’t give it.
If we can recognize the signs when we aren’t going with the flow…… which can include us trying to swim upstream against the current……. and we adjust our thought process to see what IS as opposed to what we want it to be, we can make healthy decisions for ourselves that will bring us back into the flow.
The bottom line is, what I’ve metaphorically been referring to is us seeing the TRUTH of what is occurring as opposed to what we want it to be. When we KNOW the TRUTH, we can make the decisions we need to make to put our life back on course…… especially if the TRUTH we now see is not what we have been telling ourselves it is. See the truth. Accept it for what it is without anger or fear. We now can get what we need as we return to the flow.
Love Everybody….. Including Yourself.